Whose bed have your boots been under?
So. Relationships....are difficult. Dating as a single parent is one of the hardest things to do, you have to make sure they are good people, decide when, if ever to introduce them to your kids, or how involved they are gong to be in your child's life, blah de blah. A million people have written about dating as a single parent. Trying to date as a single parent in the kink world is turning out to be far more difficult than I imagined.
Besides the normal dangers, unfortunately, the kink world has..well...perverts in it. I can be open and accepting of a lot of stuff, but dating guys who have certain kinks makes me uncomfortable having them around my child. I feel bad about it, but I can't change them, and I can't change how I feel, so that limits me in some ways. Then we have the fact that the BDSM part of my life is constantly growing, to the point where I can't imagine dating a totally vanilla guy. I doubt many men would be comfortable with me taking off my pants and getting spanked by another guy, but if they aren't willing to do it, I don't know what else I would do. So I'm stuck there. Plus, guys who aren't at least a little bit dominant just don't turn me on. I can't handle weak men, or submissive me. They drive me nuts. Not that weak and submissive are the same thing, but they are both synonymous for 'men I don't want'.
And then we have all the men out there who ruin dating in other ways. Men who can't seem to handle monogamy. Personally, as a woman, I get deeply offended when men solicit me for sexual things, when they are in relationships. Kinky or vanilla. I am not polyamorous. I am monogamous. I don't believe in having multiple sexual or romantic relationships. Just for me. I totally GET why people want/need more than one. You can't get everything you need from only one person, its almost impossible. I am just too jealous of a person though to share someone I love. Or to be shared. Its just not something I am comfortable with doing. And thats not bringing into account all the men who are NOT in any type of open relationship who proposition me. I don't enjoy being the dirty mistress, or the other woman. I am not going to sleep with you if you are not single. Period. End of discussion.
How am I supposed to date or have a serious relationship when all I ever see are lying cheating bastards? Okay, maybe not ALL, I do know a few guys who seem to be able to keep in in their pants...but its rare. I know judging all men on the actions of some is illogical and unfair, but it drives me nuts!
I spend more time turning down men in relationships than I do even TALKING to single guys.
Dating. Sucks.
Besides the normal dangers, unfortunately, the kink world has..well...perverts in it. I can be open and accepting of a lot of stuff, but dating guys who have certain kinks makes me uncomfortable having them around my child. I feel bad about it, but I can't change them, and I can't change how I feel, so that limits me in some ways. Then we have the fact that the BDSM part of my life is constantly growing, to the point where I can't imagine dating a totally vanilla guy. I doubt many men would be comfortable with me taking off my pants and getting spanked by another guy, but if they aren't willing to do it, I don't know what else I would do. So I'm stuck there. Plus, guys who aren't at least a little bit dominant just don't turn me on. I can't handle weak men, or submissive me. They drive me nuts. Not that weak and submissive are the same thing, but they are both synonymous for 'men I don't want'.
And then we have all the men out there who ruin dating in other ways. Men who can't seem to handle monogamy. Personally, as a woman, I get deeply offended when men solicit me for sexual things, when they are in relationships. Kinky or vanilla. I am not polyamorous. I am monogamous. I don't believe in having multiple sexual or romantic relationships. Just for me. I totally GET why people want/need more than one. You can't get everything you need from only one person, its almost impossible. I am just too jealous of a person though to share someone I love. Or to be shared. Its just not something I am comfortable with doing. And thats not bringing into account all the men who are NOT in any type of open relationship who proposition me. I don't enjoy being the dirty mistress, or the other woman. I am not going to sleep with you if you are not single. Period. End of discussion.
How am I supposed to date or have a serious relationship when all I ever see are lying cheating bastards? Okay, maybe not ALL, I do know a few guys who seem to be able to keep in in their pants...but its rare. I know judging all men on the actions of some is illogical and unfair, but it drives me nuts!
I spend more time turning down men in relationships than I do even TALKING to single guys.
Dating. Sucks.
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